Hahaha Sandra your still here! Thanks for the welcome.
Well I should have told you some specs about my pc really
Windows XP sp2, Athlon 2800+, 1024mb ram
Windows Firewall :x, Norton 2005 full updated, and ive deffo not got spyware
I've just signed up to internet and am using an adsl usb router so there is no other wi fi connection. there was no programs that i could see using the internet when i checked my taskbar + littlebar at bottom + taskmanager
It seems to have stopped after about 5 - 10 minutes, so maybe its a sort of attack / hack that a player can do to disconnect you and get the win... but i dont know
thanks for the replies, much loveeeeeeeeeeee dave